In today’s post I will be using the title to encourage you to overcome self-defeating thoughts.
It is easy to get distracted by other people’s thoughts and opinions about what you can or cannot do, or take on board their misguided views about one’s character or ability based on gendered racialised stereotypes, which sucks away your drive and energy and make you lose sight of what you need to do and want to do. This can lead to self-doubt.
At some point we all face trials and tribulations either at work, during our academic journey, and in our personal life, that may lead us to question ourselves. But how we react to these negative situations and people’s opinions about us, is what determines whether we fail or succeed, or become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Standing our ground and refusing to be pushed backwards or stopped in our tracks is what we need to do to overcome negative traps. The question is, how do we stand our ground, when the ground beneath us is unstable?
I have pondered this question many times at different stages in my life. What I have found is that self-belief, determination and drawing energy from a positive source, which for me is through prayer. I have been able to stand my ground when there was no ground for me to stand on.
For example, many years ago, aged 16, my career officer chose not to provide me with the information I needed to attend college. On that particular day I chose to walk home from school instead of taking the bus. I also took a different route that led me pass an organisation that supported adults into education, training and employment. I boldly walked into the building and got the information I needed and the rest is herstory.
I share this story because at that time all I wanted to do was get my GCSEs and go to college to study A-levels. But sadly, this was not the plan that many had for me.
I stood my ground by not being deterred by others opinions and sought my own path.
This is my encouragement to those of you who are having self-doubt.
STAND YOUR GROUND!